I have had such a Monday. Work was busy and I didn't get nearly what I wanted done, done. And I got nothing that I wanted to accomplish done tonight because I was dealing with neighbor issues. Parenting is basically one first step after another, and it never seems to end. The first few steps are scary, but enjoyable; first bath, first trip out, first birthday, first step, first word... you get the picture. But at some point it really turns scary; first tooth, first bike, first time you let them out of your sight. They're growing up. And without your permission! Then comes the really hard stuff; first friend, first friend fight, first independant thinking, first lie, first time following peer pressure. Then today it happened, the next "first step"; major tension and drama between parents, over their children and their children's behavior. We're talking major tension. Some parents even were flat out lying, which is what really made me mad the most.
So, here's the point of this post... How do you deal with this? How can you as an adult deal with other children and their parents when there are very different views of what is going on and on what should be done about it. Especially when one parent is out of their mind and fabricating stories in order to make your child and you look bad? How do you protect and defend your child, but at the same time not do the wrong thing yourself and say or do something wrong? And how do you explain to your kids (who have no idea what's going on) why they can't go over to so and so's house to play without saying something bad about the parent or other children, when it is their behavior that you have issues with?
Not to say that my children are without fault. This whole thing has raised a couple of issues that need to be addressed. And they will. So from one parent to another, Have you had to deal with this? How did it work out? Were you able to restore some kind of peace within the nieghborhood? And with the parents that are way out there, do you just ignore them? Do you let your kids play with their's?
I really want some input on this. Click on the Comments link below to add your own two cents.
later...
So, here's the point of this post... How do you deal with this? How can you as an adult deal with other children and their parents when there are very different views of what is going on and on what should be done about it. Especially when one parent is out of their mind and fabricating stories in order to make your child and you look bad? How do you protect and defend your child, but at the same time not do the wrong thing yourself and say or do something wrong? And how do you explain to your kids (who have no idea what's going on) why they can't go over to so and so's house to play without saying something bad about the parent or other children, when it is their behavior that you have issues with?
Not to say that my children are without fault. This whole thing has raised a couple of issues that need to be addressed. And they will. So from one parent to another, Have you had to deal with this? How did it work out? Were you able to restore some kind of peace within the nieghborhood? And with the parents that are way out there, do you just ignore them? Do you let your kids play with their's?
I really want some input on this. Click on the Comments link below to add your own two cents.
later...